Tuesday, April 15, 2008

The other side...

In situations like this, you just don't know what to believe. I wanted to post a video that also explained things from the mothers side a bit.

Since I (in the past-but it never ends) have been involved with a bitter custody dispute, been harrassed by my ex's family, had them stand up in court and tell lies, I have seen how these things can happen. My ex's family are of a certain religion (some consider it a cult) and I try my best to be accepting of their faith. But my ex's mother actually told me "My religion tells me that I don't have to tell the truth in court because I do not hold the government, courts, police or anyone above my (God)" which she calls by a different name. But I don't want to offend anyone so I don't want to disclose that.

Thankfully, I had a smart judge and mediatior and they met with E and they knew her father's family lied and awarded me custody.

But what does it all matter when you see these children...they are the ones affected by all of this. Everytime E's dad doesn't show up for visitation, even though she doesn't want to go, she is still being let down. Every time he verbally/physically abused me in front of her, she gets so scared and withdrawn.

My heart goes out to any children who are in situations of any kind that involves abuse, neglect, custody battles, etc. As well as their family members that the children do have that truly love them, whomever that may be.

I am staying off youtube for the rest of the day. I don't close my eyes to these situations, they are all to real for me, however my heart can only take so much. I am going outside to play in the sun with my girls and hug them tighter than ever.


Scarlet O'Kara said...

My heart goes out to you, your daughter, and the rest of your family. My dear sweet friend has been involved with a nasty split and was just granted her divorce decree two days ago.

Unfortunately, she will never be completely rid of her ex because they share custody of their two beautiful daughters.

While he isn't a total "dead beat" dad, he has gone against the court orders to pay child support and she has had to struggle on her own for the past year and a half.

I keep hoping that the local law enforcement agency will suspend his license until he pays up...then she can actually start paying some bills and having some fun again.

Keep doing a great job of loving your daughters. Good always prevails.

Beth G. said...

Wow. That video made me tear up. I'm so glad you have your daughter and the rest of your family. You sound like you are a GREAT mom and wife so they are all lucky to have you! Keep smiling!

Somewhere Between Pinot and Pacifiers said...

Wow. My heart goes out to you. This video was so sad. Like you said, it makes you want to hug your kids a little tighter. You are a great mom!

The Mrs. said...

Wow. That is so tough on you and E. I hate when people hide behind religion. That is not right. I hope for your childs sake your ex can get it together.